I've been thinking lately about how easy it is to become lazy in maintaining friendships. Particularly with friends that you have had for a long time, and that dependency, or constancy, can sort of fall into taking them for granted, you know? Also as many of my friends have started having their own families, or their own relationships, it's natural that their time and attention becomes focussed on those aspects of their lives.
I was feeling like I hadn't really been doing much lately to put active attention into some of these long term friendships of mine. I'd become sort of passive about catching up with people, enjoying seeing them when things were organised but not being active about it. It's easy to let time drift by without seeing each other.
So I thought it would be nice to have a large pinic on the holiday Monday yesterday, something that could accommodate friends with kids, friends without, friends with dogs, good food and drink, and a serious amount of lying around. Yesterday was a beautiful summery day in Sydney, although the only downside was the warm blustery wind that was whipping up a bit of a hay fever storm.
As it turns out it was also a great opportunity for Mikey (the lovely ex) to introduce his new boyfriend Evan to our circle of friends, and for us to meet a bunch of Evan's friends. It was a great afternoon with around 20 or so of us in total and all of my plans for eating, drinking and laying around were achieved. Yay! Yay for lying around with a full belly! In the late afternoon around 10 of us retired to the pub, both old friends and new, and then had a lovely Thai dinner under the stars while the heat of the afternoon mellowed into a mild evening.
By the time I got home around 8.30pm I was so knackered that I went to bed around 9 o'clock, having had a really great day.